Sex conversations to read
Debra writes with great sensitivity, born of deep experience, and she walks the fine line between love and truth with grace (both literal and figurative).She defines sexuality as people's search for connection with other humans (in contrast to spirituality, which is people's search for connection with the divine).The first thing to observe is that Redeeming Sex is not about 'sex.' That is, if you reduce sex to mechanics, genital stimulation and technique you won't find what you are looking for here. It tackles Christian attitudes toward sex, sexism, gender, our approach the LGBTQ community. Part two, "Bits, Bobs and Tricky Business" looks deeper at Christian views, especially our approach to gender and same-sex attraction.
I expected it to address questions like, "How do you teach your kids to value purity without implying that sex is bad/dirty/sinful?" Or "How do you encourage married couples to have great sex without making unmarried people feel unvalued?" Instead it is about sexuality in a broader sense (as indeed the subtitle implies).Debra Hirsch is the wife of ,and co-conspirator with, missional guru Alan Hirsch (they co-wrote Untamed, which may be my favorite Hirsch book).She serves on the leadership team of the Forge Mission Training Network and is on the board of Missio Alliance.healing leading to heterosexual marriage, celibacy and affirmation of gay lifestye).She doesn't commend a one-size-fits-all approach to 'healing homosexuals.' At one point, she observes that heterosexuals are also in dire need of healing in their sexuality because all of us are sexually broken (120).She quotes affirming authors and promotes dialogue between conservatives and gay Christians, but this isn't a book that tells you what your theology should be.This is a book that urges us to greater love and understanding as we reach out in the love of Christ. She doesn't mince words about where we've mussed up a biblical vision of human sexuality AND the gospel of grace.This is a message both conservatives and progressives need to hear. Too often evangelicals are defined in our culture by their views on sexuality (i.e. Hirsch points us towards deeper love and mission to all who are sexually broken.This doesn't mean that we necessarily abandon our theological commitments; however it means seeking how to love well. Notice of material connection: I received this book from IVP in exchange for my honest review.