Dating and meeting parents
Do not introduce your girlfriend or boyfriend to your parents just for the sake of doing so. Figuring out when the right time is will, of course, have a lot to do with how strict or relaxed your parents are.
If they are laid back then go right ahead and plan something casual.
But I’ve never dated a white guy, let alone sat down at a dinner table with a white family. Should I draw a parallel between ancient Jews and black people in America? I remember rolling the windows up and down throughout the ride. I thanked him for the recognition and insisted I wasn’t anyone special. We’re told to not prejudge situations, but experience can challenge that call. Accordingly, I approached meeting Donny’s parents apprehensively. Within a few minutes of meeting his parents, I realized my apprehension was unwarranted. Inspired by a social worker at a young age, Carmel decided to dedicate her life to helping children in need.
We drove to his parents on a Sunday night, a small suburb outside Philadelphia. As we left, Steven pulled me aside and thanked me for the work I do, explaining that there aren’t enough social workers in this country. [image: via Guian Bolisay on flickr] Carmel Jones is a 32 year old social worker living in Philadelphia.
If your partner has hung out with your friends on more than one occasion, then it is safe to say that he or she may be ready to meet the folks.
There is less pressure when it comes to meeting a group of friends and if you partner passes with flying colors, then think about amping it up a notch and introducing him or her to your parents. Whether your partner has met other family members by pure chance or intentionally, once he or she has met an extended family member, it is probably time to meet the parents.
I have a friend who has very traditional and conservative parents.
Either way, all parties have to be ready for the meeting if you want it to be a success.Some parents are just that way and you cannot fault them for being so set in their traditional ways.If you have parents like these, then just play ball with them and only introduce your partner to them when things are very serious. Inside is one of the main Jewish prayers.” I’m not sure if he was impressed or shocked, but either way, his face nearly dropped to the floor. He looked exactly like Donny with an extra thirty years. I shared how I got started in my field, how I was inspired by a young social worker who helped my cousins when I was young. “This is a mezuzah,” he explained, pointing to the small doorpost affixed diagonally, “not exactly sure what it means, but it’s some kind of Jewish law.” “Yeah. This is Steven.” I gazed into the future as Donny’s father approached. A couple glasses of wine and a delicious main course later, the four of us were talking about my job as a social worker.We were not able to talk very much as there were too many relatives and friends stopping by to say hello.My advice is to plan something more intimate so that everyone has the chance to properly get to know one another, but of course, that is your prerogative.In any case, here are 7 signs that it is probably time to meet the folks. You will know that it’s the right time to meet the parents once you are mutually exclusive.There is no point in putting everyone through the paces of getting to know one another if your relationship is not going to last.Once you have decided that you are going to be saddled with your partner indefinitely, it is probably the right moment to make the introduction to your parents.[Read: 16 signs you’re not ready to be exclusive] #2 Your partner has met your friends.