Dating a guy with no car
What’s a hunter to do when his prey basically walks up and lies down at his feet? Let’s say we take a lion out of his natural habitat and every day we bring his food to him. This type of aggression rarely, if ever, wins a man’s heart. If he is serious about you, he will do what it takes. Therefore, it’s great to show your man you have a variety of skills, but don’t overdo it.
Once a woman passes the age of thirty or so, she is expected to be married and have a couple of crumb snatchers. I know the word court is very old-fashioned and not necessarily hip, but it’s what you should require before you give him your seal of approval. I would love to leave that point right there, but I know I’ve got to go a little deeper.
If he talks about himself more than he inquires about you — RED FLAG.
Now, just because I described these ten items as red flags doesn’t mean it’s an absolute no-go item if you encounter one in your man.
What’s wrong with the guy in jeans and a T-shirt, driving a Camry, checking his Timex to see exactly when his check is going to hit the bank? Never allow yourself to be impressed by a man’s depreciating assets (cars, clothes, expensive rental apartment). If you’re going to be impressed with material things, at least be smart enough to start with his net worth. I had a woman tell me how flattered she was when her boyfriend booked her a posh hotel room, filled it from corner to corner with freshly cut roses, and had an expensive dress lying across the bed just as a surprise to show her how much he cared about her.
Granted, I’d have to give the brother an “A” for style and originality, but when I said to her, “Wow, he must be paid! He’s living with his mother right now, but he just really likes me.” All I could think was, 'This fool must have fallen and bumped her head.